We create assumptions of what is to come next and hold onto those shoulds and supposed tos tightly. Something inside tells us these things must occur for us to move forward. We hang onto a picture of the coming season, and for that the presence of winter intensifies. We struggle with accepting we are in-between, and miss the wonders of what is before us..
Like this winter, we hang onto expectations for our life. We anticipate - a robin in our career, daffodil sprouts of something new we want. And for it, like this long cold, our lives remain unchanged, the sameness uncomfortable, unwanted and . . still here strong as ever. In hanging onto unfulfilled expectations we are unable to experience the present unaware of new possibilities.
Whatever we have been is behind us. Whatever we are meant for before us. Some of what we thought would be us along the way has not materialize and as we walk along we search them out; these outdated goals and dreams, not seeing they no longer fit us today. Holding onto them leaves us unable to gather new opportunities. However the starkness of being in-between what was and what might be scares us and has us continuing to look for these old possibilities because a maybe seems better than . . . what?
What if you were to wipe these outmoded goals and dreams from your palette? Take all the "stuff" that you have kept all these years waiting for their place to materialize on your canvas and simply discard them. Throw them away! Whatever you thought you wanted to do, needed to have, supposed to accomplish, should achieve that has been with you all these years . . . stop holding onto them, trying to fit them into your present.
Take a challenge this month and collect all those goals, dreams and desires you hold onto even those you think you might still want on pieces of paper. At the end of March remove them from your life - burn them, throw them into the ocean, tear them into tiny, tiny pieces and scatter them onto the wind. If the spirit of those you are uncertain of are meant to be a part of this living, then like the Phoenix they will rise fresh and new and be on this new palette.
When you go to think of the things you have left undone, they may scamper into hiding because they have been such a part of your life for so long they don't want to leave. A little voice may cautiously says, "This might be something you want. Don't toss it away?" They must leave. Their time has passed. Their purpose no longer relevant. The challenge is to bring them out from hiding, collect them and toss them back to the ether. They are taking up space! Precious space to fill with beautiful, exciting, new desires and wants that have meaning for you now. Let this canvas called Your Life be clean of tattered dreams, faded promises, unmet expectations. Allow yourself to ponder what new you want to fill your canvas.
Enjoy the free space, Maggie