What is it about letting go that fills us with such trepidation? We hold on to a way of life, a job, a relationship, knowing there is something more we want for ourselves, and yet still we . . . hang on. It is said we do this out of fear of the unknown, afraid of what may lie ahead for us. I suggest something else keeps us hanging on, sometimes by a thread, to what was, fear of being . . . in-between.
We have all met the person who moves from one thing to another, seemingly in control of where they are going. We are envious of their determination, their focus. How strong. How courageous they are. We see them move from one experience to another supported by a principle, a philosophy. We extol them for honoring what they believe.
Moving through life following a principle helps us gain knowledge, assisting us in building a foundation for solid growth, which leads to wonderful places. A closer look into the life of someone who has gained this clarity, we find they are exploring the path of their soul, the way of Self, what nurtures and fills their essence. How does this happen?
We all, at points in our life, have been in-between. And when we allowed our fears and anger to dominate because we just did not know where we would land, we sought new things from a perspective of what we had lost or given up or had taken away, hanging on tight as we moved farther and farther away from what was. We became so focused on the past, what was left behind, we were unable to see what was with us, what we were becoming. We were unable to experience the joy, explore the exhilaration, of something that would help us grow closer to our Self, so that we could be master . . . of our Self
Knowledge is not wisdom and it is with wisdom we change. Wisdom is what is gained by letting go and being with the in-between. Free floating between what you were and what you will be. Daring to let yourself feel who you really are. The true master is courageous and has lived in-between until where they were meant to be came into view - clear, focused - that ah-ha.
So here in the first month of a New Year, in the depth of winter, a time suspended between completion and rebirth, savor the in-between. Cherish and honor what was, be aware of what is, explore what sits with you, and most importantly, feel your Self and smile.